Obituaries

William Combs
B: 1941-04-13
D: 2017-08-16
View Details
Combs, William
Frank Leffert
B: 1930-06-29
D: 2017-08-13
View Details
Leffert, Frank
Fred Miller
B: 1926-09-11
D: 2017-08-11
View Details
Miller, Fred
Wayne Daugherty
B: 1937-09-26
D: 2017-08-11
View Details
Daugherty, Wayne
Linda Jones
B: 1950-08-29
D: 2017-08-09
View Details
Jones, Linda
Wallace Patterson
B: 1959-03-17
D: 2017-08-04
View Details
Patterson, Wallace
Wilhelm May
B: 1963-02-17
D: 2017-08-03
View Details
May, Wilhelm
Harvey Grigg
B: 1953-08-10
D: 2017-07-31
View Details
Grigg, Harvey
James McMahan
B: 1937-12-29
D: 2017-07-28
View Details
McMahan, James
Raymond Svoboda
B: 1933-07-21
D: 2017-07-28
View Details
Svoboda, Raymond
Steven Hill
B: 1953-11-24
D: 2017-07-28
View Details
Hill, Steven
David May
B: 1951-10-27
D: 2017-07-25
View Details
May, David
Erwin Huelskamp
B: 1936-11-19
D: 2017-07-20
View Details
Huelskamp, Erwin
Daryl O'Leary
B: 1953-07-15
D: 2017-07-20
View Details
O'Leary, Daryl
Dorothy Brush
B: 1931-02-22
D: 2017-07-17
View Details
Brush, Dorothy
Karah Moxley
B: 1951-01-25
D: 2017-07-13
View Details
Moxley, Karah
John Jorns
B: 1960-09-15
D: 2017-07-08
View Details
Jorns, John
Shelby Dickson
B: 1984-01-31
D: 2017-07-08
View Details
Dickson, Shelby
Paul McWhorter
B: 1974-06-26
D: 2017-07-01
View Details
McWhorter, Paul
Eunice Vancil
B: 1935-11-07
D: 2017-06-30
View Details
Vancil, Eunice
Ronald Debatin
B: 1944-05-11
D: 2017-06-29
View Details
Debatin, Ronald

Search

Use the form above to find your loved one. You can search using the name of your loved one, or any family name for current or past services entrusted to our firm.

Click here to view all obituaries
Search Obituaries
8638 US Hwy #50
LEBANON, IL 62254
Phone: 618-622-4900
Fax: 618-622-4949

Immediate Need

If you have immediate need of our services, we're available for you 24 hours a day.

Obituaries & Tributes

It is not always possible to pay respects in person, so we hope that this small token will help.

Order Flowers

Offer a gift of comfort and beauty to a family suffering from loss.

Pre-Arrangement

A gift to your family, sparing them hard decisions at an emotional time.
The Nature and Purpose of Grief

Obituaries
& Tributes

618-622-4900
Immediate Need

Pre-Arrange
Your Funeral

Contact
Us

Site
Search

A A A

Text Sizing

Kalmer Memorial Services

8638 US Hwy #50, LEBANON, IL 62254

The Nature and Purpose of Grief

Someone once said, "Grief is reaching out for someone who's always been there, only to find when you need them the most, one last time, they're gone." We think there is a lot of truth in those words.

The death of a loved one is life's most painful event. People's reactions to death remain one of society's least understood and most "off-limits" topics for discussion. Oftentimes, grievers feel totally alone in dealing with their pain, loneliness, and isolation.

Grief is a natural emotion that follows death of someone dear to you; and to one degree or another, it hurts. It is like an open wound which must heal.

At times, it can seem as if this healing will never happen. But, sometimes the healing process can take much less time than we have been led to believe. Grieving is purely an individual experience.

But It Does Have a Purpose

The ultimate goal of grief and mourning is to take you beyond your initial reactions to the loss. The therapeutic purpose of grief and mourning is to get you to the place where you can live with the loss in a healthy way. To do this, you have to make some necessary changes in your life, including:

1. Changing your relationship with your loved one—recognizing he or she is now gone and developing new ways of relating to him or her. Take comfort in knowing your relationship will continue - it will just be different.

2. Developing a new sense of yourself to reflect the many changes that occurred when you lost your loved one.

3. Taking on physically and mentally healthy new ways of being in the world without your loved one.

4. Finding new people, objects or pursuits in which to put the emotional investment that you once placed in your relationship with the deceased.

The bottom line of this active work of grief and mourning is to help you recognize that your loved one is gone. Then you must make the necessary internal, psychological changes, as well as the necessary external, social changes, to accommodate this reality. And it all takes time.

If you would like additional grief support, please call us. We are here to help you through all the moments after loss.
 

Our Services

We understand that it is not always possible to pay respects in person, & hope that this small token will help. You can search for your loved one using the form below.

Loading Services ...

Click here to have our funeral service notifications delivered to your email

Providing your email address will allow us to notify you of recent obituaries.

Book of Memories

The pinnacle of memorialization, any family member or friends can take advantage of this free services by creating an account and a book to memorialize their loved one.

Immediate Need

If you have immediate need of our services, we're available for you 24 hours a day.

Obituaries & Tributes

It is not always possible to pay respects in person, so we hope that this small token will help.

Pre-Arrangement

Dying is one of the few events in life that's certain to occur, yet one we rarely plan for. Should we spend more time preparing for a two week vacation than we do our last days on Earth?

Expressions of Sympathy

It can be difficult to find the right words, so we have hand-picked a collection of sympathy and remembrance gifts that will be cherished.

Order Flowers

Offer a gift of comfort and beauty to a family suffering from loss.

Daily Grief Support by Email

Grieving doesn't always end with the funeral: subscribe to our free daily grief support email program, designed to help you a little bit every day, by filling out the form below.

Weekly Email Tips to Support a Grieving Friend

It's hard to know what to say when someone experiences loss. Our free weekly newsletter provides insights, quotes and messages on how to help during the first year.

Proudly Serving the Communities of Belleville, Fairview Heights, Lebanon, O'Fallon, Swansea, Shilo, Troy, Collinsville, Scott Air Force Base, Mascoutah, Trenton, Breese, Germantown, New Baden, Albers, and Aviston
618-622-4900 Kalmer Memorial Services | 8638 US Hwy #50 | LEBANON, IL 62254 | Fax: 618-622-4949 | Email: joe@kalmermemorialservices.com 618-622-4900 Kalmer Memorial Services | 8638 US Hwy #50 | LEBANON, IL 62254 | Fax: 618-622-4949 | Email: joe@kalmermemorialservices.com 618-622-4900 Kalmer Memorial Services | 8638 US Hwy #50 | LEBANON, IL 62254 | Fax: 618-622-4949 | Email: joe@kalmermemorialservices.com 618-622-4900 Kalmer Memorial Services | 8638 US Hwy #50 | LEBANON, IL 62254 | Fax: 618-622-4949 | Email: joe@kalmermemorialservices.com 618-622-4900 Kalmer Memorial Services | Kalmer Memorial Services | 8638 US Hwy #50 | LEBANON, IL 62254 | Fax: 618-622-4949 | Email: joe@kalmermemorialservices.com

365 Days of Healing

Grieving doesn't always end with the funeral: subscribe to our free daily grief support email program, designed to help you a little bit every day, by filling out the form below.

Don't wait until it's too late.
Contact Us for quality funeral services.

Contact us today!